The One With The Tips For The Working-Full-Time-Single-Mom
We are fortunate enough to work with the best parents and we want to help you by sharing their secrets. Each Monday, we will launch a new blog series, sharing a post with our most admiral mommas. We take a moment to celebrate their highest achievement and share their best, most anticipated tips + tricks for successful days ahead.
Life doesn’t always turn out the way you expect it to. I wasn’t prepared to become a single mom at 25 years-old. Reality quickly set in, and there I was trying to figure out how to raise a one-year old on my own while working part-time and attending school online. It seemed impossible at first, but with time, I realized that with the right mindset and a positive outlook I could create a balance that was perfect for my son, King, and me. I created 5 tips that have helped me most and I want to share with you in hopes it encourages and inspires you to live a life full of purpose and love with your family, while balancing everything else life throws your way.
It really does take a village. Having family or close friends nearby can be very helpful. There have been many times when I have had family or friends come to my rescue. I have even built strong relationships with teachers at King’s school who offer to babysit if I ever need it. Having people nearby to call in case of emergency gives me a huge sense of comfort, and I've grown to know that asking for help is the courageous, smart move to make.
Let’s face it- being able to use the bathroom alone is considered a win. Being able to find time for yourself is important for any parent, single or not. We’re constantly giving our full energy to everyone and everything around us, but we deserve some time to ourselves too. Whatever it is you enjoy, do it. If you make some time to do the things you enjoy, everyone will be happier.
Spending time with King is easily my favorite part of the day. I pick him up from school and every day he asks me the same question: “What are we going to do, Mommy?” Whether we go to the park, the movies, or just play at home, it is the part of the day that we both look forward to most. When I’m playing with King, my phone has to be away. He doesn’t consider it spending time with him unless he has my full attention. Sometimes, I’ll leave my phone in the other room or at the bottom of my purse so I don’t even think about letting it distract me.
Establishing our daily routine definitely took some time and patience, but now that we are accustomed to it, (most) days run smoothly. Having a routine makes day to day life a lot more stress free. For example, mornings are painless for the most part, and we are usually out the door 5 minutes early. Creating that structure has given me time to focus on the more important things instead of getting caught up in the little things.
If you're a single parent struggling to find the right way to do everything so your kid has the very best life regardless of life's circumstances, there are two things to remember: 1. You aren't alone and 2. There is no one-set "right way". Do your best and focus on these tips that have helped me! Your kids deserve a parent they can brag about, so be your best self for yourself and for them.
To follow more of my journey, follow me on Instagram at @kingtylersworld. Please leave comments below + share your parenting tips and tricks! I'd love to hear your best tips + tricks.
This single mom is an inspiration. Raising a child all on your own is hard, especially in today’s world. This Mom has pushed thru and is raising a beautiful beautiful child. I look forward to following her and her journey. Thank you for sharing with us.
Love this!! This beautiful Mom and her babe are truly inspiring. Warms my heart.
So beautiful. This Mama is so inspiring to me. Love her tips and it’s something I will try with my own family and kids. I’m a single mother as well so this hits close to home. Thank you for this.
Inspiring!! I was a single Mom and trust me, it was hard! Love these tips. They are definitely some I have instilled with my family as well. Blessings. ❤️
Lovely read. Such awesome tips for every parent to live by. I love number 3 and 4 personally. She is definitely inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful words and advice. Single motherhood can be so overwhelming and it’s great to see that you’re putting your beautiful son first, but taking care of yourself so you can be a healthy and happy mother for both of you. You are an inspiration. Bonnie
Wow, tears are in my eyes from the way you wrote that beautiful message. You are unbelievably positive and I inspiring and I am lucky to call you my true real friend. Your tips are so amazing and I think every parent needs to read them when they need a little extra kick in the rear end to remind us, it’s not about us but them, our kids. You put me in such a positive head space and a grateful space right now before having to go to work and feel the guilt of being away until night time. It’s okay and we are doing it for them. Im thinking of how great of a mom you are and how much you have done for King. You have stepped in the role of both parents and you teach me so much all the time. I couldn’t be more happy and proud to be one of your best friends. ❤️
Such awesome tips for any parent! I love number 3 and 4. These tips are on point!👌🏼🖤
Such great tips and beautifully written. I admire you for sharing your story and what you’ve learned! It’s no easy task being a single mom, working, and educating yourself all at the same time. Your family must be very proud ❤️
Some great advice for single parents. It really does take a village to raise a child. You have done an amazing job raising King.
I can relate to all! I too, was a single mom before I had my last two. I was like 23 and boy I tell you, if it was for my parents help, I’ll probably have gone crazy. Lol. They even helped out with my last two.
I’m the same about my phone. I only use it when I have free time in the morning before work and I won’t use it till they’re asleep. Same with work from home. Because I want to give them all my time I have and that’s not even enough.
That “me time” is a must, even if it’s just the bathroom 😊 mine is the gym.
Thank you so much for sharing, Shani! Love all the tips ❤️
I love your 5 tips! You’re absolutely right! I don’t know what I would do without a support system. Just knowing that my family is there for me puts me at ease. You’re so strong, inspirational, and a wonderful mother!
Love this! Thanks for such great advice. You’re doing such wonderful job, mama! 🖤
Yes, yes, yes, yes and YES!!!! Agree so wholeheartedly with each of these points. King is lucky to have such a committed, fearless mommy to take trials and tribulations in STRIDE!
I admire this beautiful Mama! My mom was a single mother of 5. She did her best to give us the world and provide and for this, I am TRULY grateful. Such great tips and tricks for all parents! You got this Mama.
I agree with all the above! I was a single mom of two (a newborn) and my 3 yr old after I had Soléa.. its so important to have a good support system. My parents were definitely that for me ❤️
This is just some wonderful content! I just absolutely love the courage from this mother to speak up and give her advise to help others in need! So much encouragement and love coming from this article and I just love the whole positive message of this read!
Love it! I feel like it’s so easy for us to forget about giving time to ourselves 🧡
Love it! I feel like it’s so easy for us to forget about giving time to ourselves 🧡
These tips are great even for a non-single mama like me! More power to single mamas! Love this.
Nice to meet the Inspiration behind Shani and Handsome King.
They Say it takes a village to raise a strong tribe but it really only takes LOVE❣️
You are a Amazing Mother and without trials and tribulations it wouldn’t be the outcome of Success.
Great 5 Key Points..
Keep Smiling Beautiful 🦋
I love these! #3 really resonates with me bc I try to do the same. I love that King asks what you’re going to do today—that intentional family time is such a good tip! Most of the time I focus on “when I have time” to go to the park. The days where I say, enough work, play memory games with her for the next hour always feels more special than “play memory games when I have time.”
Thanks for sharing! (And love this new series!)